Talking to him when he's angry will only make him defensive.
Source: Shutter Stock If he's saying something mean, don't deal with it by retorting with your own nasty comment. Is this something that you would tell a friend not to deal with?
We are often so focused on the needs of our partner that we may not even realize that our needs aren’t being met (another reason why time for solitary reflection is important because only when we are alone can we reconnect with our own wants and needs).
Be generous with your appreciation and it will always be reciprocated. If you are upset (which we can often tell if you are) you to tell us.
Tell him about whatever is bothering you - maybe he's been making rude comments, or he's been blowing you off.
Whatever it is, tell him exactly how it makes you feel, and let him know you don't appreciate it.
This is the person you’re supposed to depend on and trust – it shouldn’t be the person you’re afraid to talk to, or the person who makes you feel badly about yourself.
But sometimes, we find ourselves dating someone who is kind of mean to us, whether it’s something that happens all the time or, just when he’s angry. There’s a difference between your boyfriend being mean to you sometimes and your BF being considered an emotionally abusive partner.
If that’s the case, here are 8 tips on how to deal if your boyfriend is mean to you.
Make it clear that you're going to deal with this kind of behavior.
Be mature and calm when discussing this so things don't get out of hand.
But if he's mean a lot and refuses to apologize for it, that's not okay.
Even if you really like him, you don't need to stay in this relationship.It’s been said before-INFJs can be hard to figure out (especially to Extroverts) because we can fluctuate pretty quickly between 'I need space’ and 'I need you now.’ It’s important for an INFJ’s partner to accept that they will have times where they need to shut everyone out. However, it never hurts to ask (and asking is always appreciated).3.