But as Swiss Marc* reveals, “we behave the way we do because of the numerous rejections we have received from Swiss women.” Tijmens’ top tip?
Women should make themselves more approachable by, for example, smiling and saying ‘hello’. It doesn’t pay off to label yourself an ‘expat’ Think being an expat will make you sound exotic? There are around two million expats in Switzerland from all over the world, but the Swiss are on their home turf: they have friendships they established as children, making it hard for foreigners to build relationships with them.
“This gives the man the green light to speak to you. Exacerbating the problem is the temporal nature of expats.
There’s no specific etiquette on this in Switzerland, says Tijmens.
Alice*, a French expat in Zurich, reveals that although her Swiss boyfriend paid on their first date, he expected costs to be split 50/50 after that.
It is not a question of being stingy, however; it is about equality.
She may be right: Swiss government figures in 2015 revealed that 35 percent of marriages were between a Swiss and a foreigner.
The Swiss need plenty of encouragement Search dating on any Swiss expat forum, and you find a slew of women moaning that men don’t approach them.“If you are only interested in sex or a one night stand, then the answer is one,” she says.