It goes without saying that Ok Cupid has one of the better reputations of more popular free dating websites for having a wide variety of quality users.
However, Ok Cupid has many not-so-great users as well, and it’s not uncommon for women to have the misfortune of encountering them, and in the past, I have as well.
If you see a picture of a woman you like, take the time to read her profile. When messaging a woman without bothering to learn about her through her profile, it may come across as you not caring about her as a person – no one wants that. If you’re interested in something casual, tell her or put it in your profile.
If you’d like a casual encounter, make that known as well.
This may help relieve the anxiety of the other person, plus it’s a safeguard for you both in case something happens.
Also, be sure to meet in a public place and to stay in a public place. Finally, don’t give out personal information – your phone number, email address, or even full name – right away.
One friend brought up a message where a man had told her that because she was a ‘woman of size’, she ‘must suck good ****’. Others in the past have conducted similar experiments, setting up fake accounts on free dating websites and recording the messages they received.
It’s no surprise that I received nearly twice as many messages on Plenty of Fish than Ok Cupid and Casual Kiss combined.
Continuing to be horrible did not dissuade any of them.