In my relationship (but maybe not yours), the best medicine in the world for intra-marital conflict is for me to be by myself, preferably with some sleep time in there somewhere. In fact, I’ve uniformly rejected every piece of relationship advice that I’ve ever been given — thank GOODNESS, because relationship advice is fucking dumb. In all the relationships I’ve witnessed from the sidelines of my longterm union, this is the one rule that has never gone away, never wavered, never been disproven.Yet when I try to tell someone who is single this rule, they genuinely never believe me.“You don’t understand.
He’s got a super busy job, so it’s just hard for him to make time for me.”“She’s just spending a lot of time with the girls lately.”At first, when people told me these things, I tried to push them.They would talk about being enveloped in the other person. It doesn’t matter if someone is shy or busy or sleepy or nervous or attached to someone else.