Personally, because I value my own self respect more than keeping up with the Pappas’ both times I have chosen to marry non Greeks. I have managed to promote a very real sense of Greek pride in them by teaching them Greek literature and Greek language, entrenching them in Greek values and a living Orthodoxy, and by taking them to Greece whenever possible.
I have religiously adhered to Greek food and traditions in the home.
We have heard stories of so and so cheating on his wife for many years.
As a young girl I remember one of my father’s friends boasting,”I have had relations with hundreds of women.” I have stepped outside the Greek milieu and asked straight up Americans about what they thought of Greek men, “a–holes,” “proud” “immature”” shrewd” “good with money and business” but mostly arrogant immature “d—-“.
In other words, do you settle for a Greek s-o-b just to keep the balance and socially more acceptable harmony of a Greek home?
Like Latino lovers, they are two-timers or three or four or 22-timers and keep a rotating Rolodex of women in their minds.
Not to say they are much different than other men out there, and to risk coming out as stereotypical, yet stereotypes don’t come out of nowhere.
I have tried to replicate I them what I have hoped to accomplish in myself as a hyphenated American.
I never wanted to “greekness” to fade away into a barf shade of grey.The stories of Greek heroes’ infidelity and hanky panky are the stuff of legend. Jason, married to Medea and whose charms without which he could not have survived, still betrayed her by marrying an Athenian princess, quite younger.