Even high-strung people often think they’re ‘laid-back.’ Find something more descriptive.” Other common terms to be avoided: “cool,” “awesome,” “funny.” “Nearly everyone ‘loves to laugh’ and ‘enjoys fun.’ None of that sets you apart. “Put yourself into a potential date's shoes on this one. ’ Blech—that conversation is a total wipeout.” A better alternative, she explains, is telling stories.Instead of saying, ‘I’m witty,’” Robinson suggests, “say, ‘I’m one part Ricky Gervais, one part Jon Stewart, and a soupcon of Fred Flintstone.’ That paints a more vivid picture.” I like surfing, reading, swimming, jogging, and cooking. If you saw a list like this on a cute girl’s profile, how would you possibly respond? “ ‘Last summer, I went surfing at the Jersey Shore nearly every day with my dog Rufus. Buy me a beer, and I’ll tell you more.’ Something like that gives a date plenty to want to talk to you about—plus you sound like an active, interesting person, not just a list of gerunds.” Don’t stretch the truth, even on minor details.Yet, when it comes to online matters of the heart, finding “the one” often remains elusive.That’s because love, like the Internet, has a lingo and etiquette all its own.
“They can catch any potentially off-putting, Charlie-Brown-sulking statements, as well as good-naturedly make fun of you for any weird phrasing or half-truths.NEXT: "Cool" guys finish last [pagebreak] Vague adjectives signal “dull” and appear in far too many profiles, Robinson warns.“‘I’m a laid-back, easygoing guy…’ Such terms are practically meaningless.Attractive girls in big cities usually have so many matches that they rarely view second pics if they don’t like the first one. It should show your face, without sunglasses, with a friendly smile. If you do use one, make sure it doesn’t look like one.
It’s important to include a picture that displays your stature.If the Internet is good for anything—and, actually, it’s good for lots of things—it’s good for finding a needle in a haystack.