So, since you can ALWAYS find a quality he DOESN’T have, it doesn’t make much sense to rely on such lists. This brings up an obvious question, however: “What about men? And if you’re in touch with the dozens of reasons that most men don’t make the cut, what are the reasons that men use to cut you loose? In fact, I think you’d be SURPRISED at what men REALLY want from women. Because there are lots of amazing women who have the potential to be great girlfriends but accidentally sabotage themselves. After all, men and women dump each other in equal measure.Insecure men and their woes Insecure men can come off as one of the most sensitive and nicest men you’ve ever met.At first, he may be quiet and always ready to give you advice when you need it.[Read: How to deal with insecurity in a relationship] That’s the strange power of insecurity and insecure men in a relationship.Experiences with insecure men The first time I ever dated an insecure guy was almost a decade ago.He was an exceptionally great guy who loved me and treated me like a princess. A few months into the relationship, he thought my friends were a bad influence on me.
I tried changing myself for him so he could be proud of me. I was in this relationship for almost three years before we had to go our own ways for good.Almost all the time, you’ll just end up assuming that your boyfriend’s only trying to help you.