The couple can avoid violating the “man earns more” social norm if the woman works part time or leaves the labor force altogether. But what if the woman stays in the labor force and earn more than her spouse? tweet So, here’s how it appears to work: Unemployed, under-employed and low-paid women are still dateable and marriage material, while guys are not.Generalization caveat: Not all men are afraid of relationships, but many men are terrified of them.A recent study seems to indicate that we are stuck in a time warp when it comes to gender and money — we can’t get past the idea that a husband should make more money than his wife, and that is impacting whom we marry, how much a wife works, and even if a couple stays married.Among the interesting questions posed: What happens when a man marries a woman who has the education and skills to earn more than him? In such couples, surveys show, both wife and husband generally report being less happy about the marriage."Not having a job will definitely make it harder for men to date someone they don't already know," said Irene La Cota, spokesperson for It's Just Lunch, a dating service for professionals that conducted the research."This is the rare area, compared to other topics we've done surveys on, where women's old-fashioned beliefs about sex roles seem to apply." [More People Would Date For Smarts Than Money] On the other hand, the prospect of dating an unemployed woman was not a problem for nearly two-thirds of men.Just one-third of men said they would date an unemployed woman.Overall, 75 percent of women said they would be unlikely to date an unemployed man, with 33 percent saying no outright.
That’s why the pro-marriage people have it all wrong when they say marriage will get low-income women out of poverty.Before I get into the reasons why they're so afraid, let me first address the question of whether men are more afraid of relationships than women.