I’ve been on the receiving end of some rather shocking insults I never would have dreamt a person could say.One I’ll never forget: “Your shape is not desirable to me.” At least he tried to make it sound like a business transaction.“If I wear this long jacket and stand just so, no one will even realize how overweight I am.” “If the lighting at the restaurant is dim enough, I can totally get away with this top.” “If I wear these heels, my legs will look slimmer. ” “If I make self-deprecating jokes about the size of my ass and make him laugh, he’ll fall in love with my sense of humor.” “If I show up later in the evening, all the beautiful people will have gone home.” “If I show up earlier in the evening, all the beautiful people won’t be there yet.” “If he isn’t interested, it’s fine — who meets their soulmate in a bar anyway? In a very pragmatic way, it is also actually physically hard to meet someone in Los Angeles.Our bars and restaurants are crowded, and I hate being the big girl trying to squeeze into a booth or through the room. Asking a restaurant hostess to move my party to another table because I literally could not fit into it.My bottom line on dating is actually what I imagine it would be for many people: never let anyone convince you that you’re not entitled to self-respect and pride because of an abnormality.
I'm great for a roll in the hay but not to meet mom. Some prey on the vulnerability of heavy girls, hoping to get laid quickly and get out without any further commitments.
In addition to passing judgment, people make assumptions about what I like, how I feel, and what I eat.
It’s always strange and amusing when a man is shocked to learn that I’m successful in my career, drive a new car, live in a nice home, etc.
And if we can remember that fact, we might be able to join forces in the battle instead of walking into a room and identifying anyone who’s different from us as a competitor. Having people like Melissa Mc Carthy and Billy Gardell on prime-time TV, and seeing bloggers like The Militant Baker and The Curvy Fashionista ascend to mainstream popularity, makes me feel a little less abnormal.
Brands like Michael Kors and Calvin Klein are providing fashion options for larger women that are on-trend.When they folded, it was returned to me to do as I wish.