Can you be comfortable with your needs without being needy?That’s being in your yin energy, your feminine essence, and it’s hot.Guys actually like having a chance to cheer you up — it makes us feel useful.
So as soon as you’re in an established intimate relationship, decide how often you want to speak to him, and establish that as a baseline.
I think it’s partially my fault, since following your advice, I got out and dated more than one guy at the beginning and did not call the guys but generally waited for them to call (new concept for me and it actually worked, thanks! Eventually he rose to the top and we started dating exclusively and I continued to let him initiate most of the calls but now I don’t know if he’s gotten ‘settled in’, but when I don’t see him, he doesn’t call that often.
It’s not that I never hear from him, there is the occasional text, call etc., but for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, it’s less calling than I’m used to and although everyone is different with how much they call, I think even a goddess might get a little hurt/annoyed by this behavior lol.
Sure, you’ll prime the pump with a hair flip and provocative look, a quick text or email, but he has to come to you.
2) In a relationship, train your man by setting expectations.
As in, “We had a great first date — why hasn’t he called me yet (SMHWTMH)? That’s reserved for authentic guffaws and funny cat pictures.